Out of the Ark: Alone in a Coupled World after the Death of a Husband
by Dorothy R. Cotton, Ph.D.
  • Home
  • The Author
  • Contents
    • Introduction
    • Quotes from Widows
    • Recipes from Well-Wishers
    • Distraction vs. Connection
    • Mourning is Unpredictable
    • Replacement vs. Succession
    • Deification and Guilt
    • Fear/Anger
    • Aimlessness
    • Sadness for the Dead Spouse
    • Loss of Couples
    • Being with Couples
    • Physiology of Mourning
    • Poem: "The Island"
    • Conclusion

Sadness for the Dead Spouse

Perhaps you think about what he is missing with friends, children and grandchildren. The dead do not grieve. It is you who is grieving, because you are missing the companionship and the sharing of experiences. It is painful to witness family events without being able to talk about them together—to discuss your children in a way that only the two of you could. Of course, you wish that he could witness these happenings, but it is you who are affected by the drive home alone and the emptiness when you arrive there. The sorrow you feel for your spouse is really your own and merits your compassion.

Read on: Loss of Couples
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